How to have good relations with your mother-in-law?

Future Point | 03-Jul-2019

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Of all the relationships in personal life, the one between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often the most tenuous and delicate one. Sometimes despite all the efforts that you put, things just seem to be impossible and they do not fall in place with your mother-in-law. No matter how much you try, there will be a time when things would not be in your favor. To keep your personal relationship with your mother-in-law stable, you need to deal calmly with situations at your home and warm up to your mother-in-law. This might take time, but the best advice for you is to not give up and lose hope. You need to set some standard norms and make sure that you and your mother-in-law supports it.

Here are some ways which will help you in setting a cord with your mother-in-law:

Have A Word With Your Partner

You need to come with a clear mind to your partner and ask him his viewpoint on the same situation. Tell them what bothers you and what you have done in order to solve the tiffs. The key here is that both of you need to be on the same page. In case your partner disagrees and in favor of your mother-in-law then there is no need to feel offended over this. Just describe your take on everything that’s been happening and let her know that you will not let her disrespect you or your marriage this way.

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Avoid Conflicts

Respect is the foremost thing to consider here. The main thing is how you influence her into accepting and believing in each and every word you say. Regard her wishes if she tries to stay away from you, but make sure that you address it too. Whenever you see her talking in front of her friends or any family member about you or your habits or anything that concerns you, the first step is to avoid. If she still doesn’t get the hint and keeps baiting you, address the issue. Keep your pitch polite and make your presence known.

Understand Her Perspective

There must be something that triggered her to hate her child’s partner. Dig deep and find the root of the problem. She is a completely different person with a completely different mindset and values. Things that you think are right might not make it to her good books and things that you despise could be in sync with her taste. There might be a probability that she must be having issues in accepting the fact that her importance in your husband’s life has been compromised. Pay attention to her actions and decipher what is the reason behind her arrogant nature towards you. Adapt an understanding approach instead of doing everything as you want.

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Value Her Emotions

The feeling of separation is hard for mothers. The sense of rejection, however, is often not felt until the time of the wedding, when the mother-in-law is finally and fully “replaced” as the primary feminine love in a son’s life. This might be the reason the tension of the mother-in-law. Maybe unconsciously, she blames you for her feelings of rejection, and if there is any past of betrayal from other men, those feelings can emerge and lead to unreasonable anger towards you and your husband. You can at times feel like your mother-in-law exercises too much influence on her son and might feel a weird sort of jealousy or sense of betrayal.

Be Honest In Your Approach

Whenever you meet her, always be polite. A positive outlook would help nurture your relationship. Smile and think of all the nice things she supports and believes in. When you meet her, be genuine and compliment her or choose a safe spot, either the house or any particular art piece she has. Find a common and safe ground, for a conversation. But do not come off as too prying or desperately fetching for things to talk about. Let the conversation go in the flow without any offensive comments, complaints, grudges, etc.

Try To Know About Her

Put yourself in your mother-in-law’s shoes whenever you meet her. Ask her about her marriage and how she felt at that time. You need to understand that you both deeply care about the same person, so there is plenty to talk about. Ask her questions that she’ll be comfortable around like- something about your partner’s childhood, likes, dislike, funny memories, weird memories, and his attitude/nature toward different situations. Know about what difficulties she had raising kids and how did she manage to be a superwoman. These would make her comfortable to converse freely with you. Do not forget to sprinkle your conversation with compliments for her every now and then.

Treat Her Well

Even if your mother-in-law is a difficult woman you need to pay attention to the fact that she is family. Respect her and treat her well. Make an effort to respond in a positive manner instead of being arrogant or rude. Do not say anything hurtful, ever. The most crucial part is to never put your partner in a situation where they have to choose between you and his mother. You can ask for help, but never ask to part ways or choose. You should respect her.

Consult a Marriage Astrologer to get effective solutions

Being Married or in a Relationship, there is the popular belief that it is not only the union of just two people but also of two families, two individuals, and two cultures. It might be daunting for some to adjust in a new family where you are dependant on your partner for connecting. To deal with it, find common ground with everyone. Know things about the family members, either from your partner or from personal interaction. This would eliminate the dependability on your partner and you will have an opportunity to make good terms with your in-laws.

Every relation is beautiful in its own way. If you want to make things better with your mother-in-law then Astrology can help you. You can talk to our panel of world famous astrologers who will guide you and will provide you suitable ways of making things better. You can also take the help of Kundali matching for checking the compatibility between you and your mother-in-law with the help of your husband’s Kundli.

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